When we think about communication we think about interactions.  So what if your body language communicates non-verbal signs to others?  Our thoughts, our feelings and our physiology.  These non-verbal expressions can portray power and dominance and interestingly, on the opposite end of the spectrum, when you are feeling powerless you do the exact opposite.  You close down, wrap yourself up and become tiny.

In her very empowering TedTalk, Amy Cuddy asks the question if you can fake ’til you make it for a little while, will you actually experience an outcome that makes you more powerful?  As it turns out, yes!  There is sound scientific evidence that when you pretend to feel powerful then your body changes physiologically by modifying key hormones such as testosterone and cortisol to match that level of mind.


Amy experimented with people asking them to adopt a certain high-power or low-power pose for only two minutes. She demonstrates that your body language shapes who you are.  The outcome was that our bodies change our minds, and our minds can change our behavior.  Behavior changes outcomes. It’s kind of like the old adagio, “as within so without”.

So fake it ’til you become it. Reconfigure your brain with the power of self esteem and body image.

Take the positive affirmation “ I Am Sexy“.  This bold statement is powerful for the self esteem and body image, however, it is important what you say internally versus what you think others think.  Again, “as within so without”. When you say it you feel sexy, you exude sexiness.  When you love yourself, your world reflects this inner vision.



“No matter what a woman looks like, if she’s confident, she’s sexy.”

~ Paris Hilton